Since our family is very traditional, respect is a big word which every member of the family is expected to observe. When I was in junior high school, I was very dependent on them. I used to value whatever they say to me, and I used to consider their opinions on how I should live my life. In short, I just let my parents decide for my future. There was no attempt in making my own decision until in senior high school they told me to decide on my own. I was afraid at the beginning because I remembered that there was this moment when I was in grade 8 where I attempted to disobey them and followed what I wanted; but as a result of this, I just made a mistake. After I became comfortable of my situation, I learned to become independent.
In the lesson about individuation, I realized that separation and self-assertion - components of individuation - help develop one’s identity. In my case, my parents allowing me to decide on my own helped me develop my own identity. I realized that my parents wanted me to have my own identity separate from them. By being independent from them, I feel more connected with my parents. In fact, after I graduate from senior high school, we treated each other like friends. With this lesson I learned, I am now able to appreciate more how significant the role of my parents in establishing my identity.
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